The Captain`s role is one which is
earned by him-/herself by going the ranks. The Captain`s role is one which is to be
accepted by his/her crew.
It`s easy for an F/O to become hot`n`high og slow`n`low
. This has to do with experience. There are a lot of inputs which add up to the F/Os level of experience. One of them is planning ahead. And a Captain is correct to notify the F/O when things are getting to a point close to not stabilized or exceeding limits of the aircraft.
There are several ways of dealing with this, but upon reaching your stabilized gate, and you`re not stabilized, then the call from the Captain should be "not stabilized - go around". There`s too much emphasis on the committment to land as to the option of a go-around. The stabilized gate is there to safeguard to the landing. The rest is dealt with on the ground during debriefing (yes, there should be a debrief done by the Captain after such an approach).
BTW, I`m an F/O and consider any inputs/debriefings from my Captain to be valuable to my level of experience. It also is a learning experience for when I someday will earn my 4 stripes as well
. Much respect to the Captains who debrief their F/Os when something needs debreifing!