I used to watch all the Air Crash progs until I realised I was just exasperating matters. I'm sure anyone that thought about it would worry about an accident, or crashing, but do you feel that same way when you drive your car? I've tried to be more subjective about what I didn't/don't like about flying, and it's the very fact that there are SO many checks, re-checks and triple checks that helps allay my fears. I too look forward to the bong allowing the cabin crew out of their sets, but it's just another thing to stick your fears onto.
Banking I used to hat too, fearing the aircraft would 'slip' ... again, the book I bought was brilliant at this.
I wish you some peace, and I can thoroughly THOROUGHLY recommend EFT and NLP.