By all accounts this works really well. It's also the most expensive. I don't know which if any of the compacts use this. Canon calls it IS, Nikon VR
I have not used it flying (as pax ... I would never ever dream of using a camera as PIC ! ) .... but the Nikon VR system is quite amazing ... and the non-pro 18-200 Nikkor VR is a very handy "holiday snap" lens.
Mark1234, a quick guide to the VR mechanism
here will reinforce my saying that it's unlikely you'll ever find such quality technology in a compact.
In terms of aviation photography in general though, unless you're going to be poking the lens out the window, you could end up with the cloudy photo effect if the window is unlcean / scratched. So maybe a reasonable compact would be your best bet, because you might not be able to get the best out of an SLR.