Rotten - what is it you want to know exactly when you say there is a lack of comms?
The "rough " landing due to lack of comms between ATC and the flightdeck - who told you that that was what the issue was? If there were items being flung out of the overhead lockers - then that sounds rather more than a normal but bumpy landing.
Try to bear in mind that there are 2 pilots at the pointy end - both of whom have a healthy desire to fly and land safely at the end of a shift, and are not going to fly an aircraft if it unsafe to do so.
Sometimes things go wrong ( as indeed they can with your car/bus/train/legs), and because flying, unlike driving/walking etc, is something that the general public don't know much about , it is sensationalised by journalists. If you are on a train - how much do you want to be told by the driver?
I have no problems with folk asking sensible questions - but I frankly find your questions and statements both bizarre and pointless.
It sounds like you are a bit of a control freak ; not being in control and not understanding about flying and what is going on seems to be your main issue here, not whether flying is safe or not.
Why don't you go on one of these fear of flying courses to set your mind at rest?
Best of luck
louby