I doubt that his family agree with your sentiments........
I did attempt to make allowances for this fact, and yes I agree that the family's quite understandable grief should not be belittled.
What I was trying to do, and obviously failed at, was to point out that, while this is a strongly negative event, life goes on. There is a small bright(er) point, in the metaphorical sea of gloom of this event.
Until the medical people have done their thing, we cannot learn from this occurrence, as we don't know what caused it, we can speculate, certainly, but none of us can speak from a position of authority on the issue.
While I would like to apologize for any offense my remarks caused the family and friends of this man, I see no point in placating a corpse, and rather a lot more in attempting to celebrate the life of the man that was. This was what, in my own bumbling way, what I was trying to achieve. To acknowledge the life, rather than the death, of a man, I personally never knew, but suspect that I wish I had
I will now bow out of this conversation