Why can't we all just be friends?
Time for a group-hug.
FACT: there are pains in both seats. You will be surprised there will even be pains outside of aviation. But you should have learnt that.
In the likely event that the mentioned capt is just 'new' to his seat.
OD: time to loosen up. Just try to accomodate the new guy. His comfort-zone will increase with time. Who cares, as long as the company pays you on time. What matters is that you are on the ground safe and on-time to enjoy your life, the rest is details.
OPEN DES
(who is not ashamed to use speedbrakes as they are a flightcontrol, they even come out a bit when you roll!)
BTW: I am Dutch