Hedgedweller
I'm really not going to get involved in an website argument with you. Whatever you are trying to find in order to satisfy you, I sincerely hope that you find it, although it may not be available here. You will know that flying is a very safe method of transportation and that you have been unlucky with your experience. The statistical chances of you experiencing a repeat are miniscule and may provide you with some comfort.
I should also confirm in clarification that I do not hold a professional position as a pilot although that may change. I would not wish you to taint the pilot community with your personal views of my attitudes...
Good luck.