Losing someone close through illness or accident is hard and yes,
PS. I know that you can get killed in every day life so you don't have to remind me that.
perhaps you do need to be reminded of that because I think that is the whole point.
If my father had died suddenly in an accident, he would have been spared a long, painful and terminal illness - which is better? For him? And my family? Death is never something for which you can prepare whether by "old age" or illness. Suicide has its own guilts.
Any family will go through "what ifs", when someone close dies, irrespective of the manner of their death; that's only natural. If you take away risks such as flying and driving and horse riding and riding a motorcycle or hill climbing ...... what are you left with? Knitting?
As for pilots (and anyone else who is in a perceived "risky" occupation), you'll find a lot of black humour!
Cheers
Whirls