The lighting standards in MOS 139 apply to registered aerodromes. If it is a private ALA the lighting standards don't apply which is a good thing given the cost of installation, certification and maintenance on those types of systems.
For a pvt airfield I think it is still left up to the PIC to ensure that the rwy, lighting etc is suitable.
To find an ALA at night, probably the simplest option might be for a rotating beacon connected to a 12V power supply which are available on EBAY for less than $100 (plus pwr supply). Or you could save yourself the hard work and just give your visiting pilots the GPS coordinates.