You don't want much then?
"2. Housing Allowance and school fees for the kids without the need to make them board, along with family Bupa and dental cover."
Theprior - isn't the point of school allowance that it enables children of forces personnel to have un-interrupted education at boarding school so that they are not dragged around the globe every five minutes when one of their parents is posted? I don't think its reasonable to expect the tax-payer to stump up for kids to go to private day school - they have, after all, already payed for the state system once.
I seem to remember that families had access to the same medical facilities as service personnel? Or has that changed?