I'm sorry I don't agree. It is NOT essential to "want and want badly" to be a pilot. I'm sure that many pilots DO feel this way, but I'm sure i'm not alone in not being completely obsessed with flying. I think you certainly have to have an interest in aviation, but i don't see it as some divine calling, more a career which is an appealing choice, which IS interesting and pays well enough and has a high enough kudos to enable us to enjoy the company of females above our normal station!!! (amongst other things).
Treeshaver, can I be your FO??