Speaking as a local who goes in and out often, EWR, hands down, save when I'm on my way to California, then it's JetBlue out of JFK as they have nonstop to SJC, with a red-eye return for an 0600 Sunday arrival.
With my entire immediate family going to Paris in a week, seven people, I chose EWR. Wouldn't dream of putting anyone I love through the JFK gantlet, especially international arrivals, citizen or not.
Hope this helps.