Jan 66
When you have lost, as we have, it seems a violation of our space that others appear to openly discuss things which should or should not remain private. The most difficult thing I have found is the almost single minded way in which all this horror is dealt with, often at the expense of others who have lost and certainly at the expense of those who have a different perspective which is dismissed out of hand. We all have an interest, we all have unrelenting grief to deal with, it never goes away and I agree with you - we all want the truth but sometimes I am very concerned that many people who have no knowledge of what they are dealing are actually creating more problems. If you are not an experienced technician/pilot etc., then dealing with what can only be another persons view or experience but not your own first hand knowledge is a very dangerous game because it is too easy to read what you want to read or interpret what you want, due to anothers perspective and agenda. I would imagine most people feel they are only helping, sadly for us, this is often not the case and only serves to make an almost untenable situation even more difficult to deal with.
My family are still reeling from our loss, but despite the lack of help and consideration, the love we all had and still have keeps us strong for each other. Nothing will bring him back, nothing can take away the empty feeling or the bleak future, nothing can take away the tears but equally nothing can take away the happy memories and the laughter shared. Unless this experience has been shared by others, it cannot be put into words successfully but I also feel that those who are left behind deserve and need all our time and love and care in order to make sure that healing continues.
Take strength from the fact that many of us feel as you do. My heart goes out to you. God Bless