jan 66 PM if you wish.
suffice to say i know both the pain of being left behind. i too know the pain of the trying to comfort the one's left behind, the ones that away or in front of the computer screen cry raw huge ugly painful tears.years on... you are still left to question why.
please understand one thing...many of those on here do not talk, nor indeed speculate, about what happened just as a matter of interest, but to try adn find out the truth behind what has happened and for the simple fact we, the ones left behind, do not want to have any other family go through the agony that we endure every waking moment. it is both painful and distressing to have people you don't know speculate about those moments that led up to the end of your loved ones life. please belelieve that the majority of repondents do not reply without wishing to disrespect the cause for which they are merely trying to help with.
i lost my brother, on the hercules that was shot down in iraq. i have both sat back and endured the "open" discussion about his last moments and the failings that led to that moment. i have also participated in them to. all because i was trying to stop anyone from feeling what i felt. in fact what i still feel even today.there is nothing that will bring them back. there is nothing that will ease the pain that you/we are left with. in fact sometimes open speculation about failings from a government that was supposed to serve and protect them hurt all the more. i had to listen to my little girl today tell me that she knew where iraq was in her atlas and thats where uncle bob was killed and thats why you cry mummy. so please, understand jan that as i write this my eyes are stinging with tears.. again. i understand at how good you have to be at making sudden excuses that you are crying suddenly. i also understand that sadly this process is long, painful and drawn out and we are merely part of it.
sending you big cyber hugs
