"But they want it all ways, which suits their circumstances and then criticise others who have a contrary view!"
GasFitter
I take your point. No consolation, but it's no different out in the outside world. On balance, its probably worse. Since leaving the service I have found a whole new definition of 'selfishness'. Where even some of the whingers who are still in will give something back to the service e.g. work over until the job is finished, a lot of their civvy counterparts will just turn their head and walk on by - or, more likely, walk away if the clock has gone a milli-second past their finishing time.
SRENNAPS
No need to be embarrassed.. at least you are young enough to say "before my time , chief"