I have visited a couple of mil towers and also met the mil guys at scottish.
Unfortunatly they seemed to suffer from the same problems as none nats fields. As the local differences are quite marked. eg Valley versus Marham.
Its not a problem these days for me. After a very steep learning curve and the help of a QFI at valley I think I have my head around most of it. Although the IFR departure out of Valley to Manchester handover sometimes leads to lots of head scratching and has potential for confusion, the regular crews are proberly better at it than me.
It doesn't help when you ask mil pilots about the procedures they start the alpha male bravo ****e and tell you just to humour mil ATC and tell them what they want to keep them happy.
Still think a safety sense would be a good idea. I would be game to help with its production and I can think of a few other people who would be as well.
And BTW AP yet again the ATCO's that drive tin as well as push it are the centers of common sense when it comes to controlling aircraft.