CraigJ,
Sorry to hear of your recent disappointment. However, with the sound thought process you appear to demonstrate, I'm sure you will eventually succeed in your quest. Good luck.
Ricky,
Decide what you want to do. Is your major objective to fly, or to fly in the RAF in particular? If it's simply to fly, go civvy. If it's only with the RAF, join the Regiment as a gunner and then re-muster in 2010. Good luck.