Sitting Stress,
Sorry to hear about your news. Hope everything turns out positively. If you need to chat PM me.
One of the Petawawa 3.
I understand what the OP is saying and can agree with his sentiments Re: Cheese. As others have said grief is a very personal thing. Whilst I would never dictate on how or when others should grieve I do think some almost grieve "by proxy" as if it is the "done thing". If people want to spout poetry and that is their thing then fair enough......either way it still remains a sad and often tragic event irrespective to what people say afterwards.
SJ