moggiee
Well thanks for listening and starting this on a new thread instead of this discussion being on the young Gunners thread. I understand all of you who think comments may be too much, but please also understand Al R. You are entitled to your thoughts but so are others. Many people relate to death in different ways, many people relate these young lads to 'that could be my son', 'is my son next etc'.
moggiee i am sorry that you and your wife found condolences for your mother so upsetting. You may not believe in God, but what those people were saying to you was that through their own faith for a moment in time, they were reflecting on your mum, her life etc. In their prayers they were remembering her.
That is all people are doing on the condolences threads. Cut them some slack, you do not know the connections, you certainly don't know if they are hangers on, you don't know if they lost a son themselves 3 years ago. Not all people are as angry as you were when recieving condolences, but I think that has something to do with your immense loss and your grieving process. When your mum dies the overwhelming question is WHY?? and God seems non existant or either a wicked uncaring being. I am not into religion by the way, but for others it focuses their minds on thinking good on the behalf of those who have lost, and that is where the comfort should be.