Be forewarned - SSAFA told me to contact Social Services when I contacted them for assistance for my Dad. He's an 83 year old ex-Royal Navy Yeoman of Signals and he became unable to look after Mum who's wheelchair bound. (He can't even look after himself properly any more) The Royal Navy Association weren't much help either.
The RAFA seem to be more switched on to assistance but they've had to close some of their respite homes and are now sharing some facilities with the RAFBF. Its still worth contacting both RAFA and RAFBF:
RAFA
RAFBF
What RAFA needs is more members - please do consider joining. It isn't expensive and there are RAFALOs on nearly all Stations.
Moderators: I hope that the above bit of charitable "advertising" is permissable? If you need to delete it, please leave the "how to get help" links up.