"It's up to the Captain to be as arrogant as he likes- that copilot must find ways around to work effectively. But so many these days are little prima donnas who flounce off and sulk or become shrinking violets- the failure is them for not finding a way to get the work done effectively, which is their duty."
Do you actually bother to read what you post?
BHR- I'm a little surprised you don't seem to understand. A Captain is the boss. He can act how he pleases. BUT- being a little Hitler/excessively obnoxious, it will come to the attention of his seniors, and if it's bad enough, action will be taken. So, it's a self regulating system. But the important thing is, on the actual day, when you have to fly passengers to 4 or 5 places, it is very much up to the copilot to ensure he adapts to the Captain's style. He does not yet have the experience or (often) ability to be independant, and to show resentment or insult will create a worse environment than even if he was not there at all. The captain leads, the copilot must adapt.
Statements like this:
but that doesnt mean your F/O has to hide his dislike from you. He/She shouldnt have to!!
are a walking disaster!