Fly4fud,
poor little boy! What are you doing to make all of those lovely girls aggressive? I can only speak for myself (I don't fly with other girls, there is only one on my fleet who sits in the other seat and our paths have not yet crossed,) but each time I have been sim checked/route checked etc, there is one word that is always mentioned - supportive. Aggressive and defensive have not yet popped up. I do know the occassional aggressive woman pilot, but most of them are out there to enjoy their careers doing something they love with others who appreciate their enthusiasm for flying, and I have known a greater number of aggressive men pilots.
I have found that the only things that can dampen a great desire to fly for a living are people in the other seat who are on a mission to make your life hell. Like the ones who say you are only here because you've got tits, for example. Turning to them and saying, no I'm only here because I passed the written exams, the flying exams, the job interview, the medical and the type rating course seems to do no good. You still get people who say women are defensive witches taking mens' jobs by fluttering their eyelashes at the examiner/interviewer, and that we are only there to fill the quota anyway.
It makes me sad. It also makes me look forward to flying with the pilots who are true professionals, and make my job a job I look forward to doing each day. Fly4 fud, if I ever fly with you, don't put up your anti-harridan shields. If you do I won't get out the little screen wipe thingies to clean your instruments, and I certainly won't get out my sweetie box to share my choccies with you.