Why not go the 'process' at least you'll have an idea of whether you have the aptitude for flying. If nothing else you can use that to help direct you in civilian flying, otherwise you'll be going to Jerez, Oxford, etc wondering whether you can pass their aptitude tests.
Unfortunately competition is indeed extreme but then again it's a spectacular job to have with REAL training so of course they'll be a long line in fornt of you of eager people wanting that cockpit seat.
Whatever you choose to do, good luck and keep at it.