Captain Slack Bladder
(Ah, great show that, Blackadder, the heady days of the early nineties. My favourite episode was Corporal Punishment, I think. Ahem, anyway I digress)
You are certainly not alone. I have a PPL(A) from many years ago in the UK, then worked in IT for too many years (and still do). Always harboured a passion for flying and time marched on. Then moved to Aus and started choppers and that was it, hooked. I now have a PPL(H) here in Aus, which has taken two years part time, with 120 hours. I now have all my CPL exams, R44 rating and just around the corner will be taking my CPL(H).
All of which is merely rung number one of a very long ladder.
Then I plan to hour build part time, do any odd scraps of charter anyone throws at me, and work towards instructing. Beyond that, I'm not too worried at this stage although would love to go further.
It is clearly a long and expensive road and a lot of hard work. I have a wife, child and mortgage. And I'm in the wrong half of my 30s.
But my philosophy is to enjoy and learn from each flight one at a time, keep sight of the end goal, but not be obsessed by it to the detriment of the rest of my life. I am still kicking myself I didn't start choppers earlier, but I am not going to bet the farm on it as the risks are too high. I am going to enjoy the fruits of my other career in IT, whilst continuing with my passion for flying and see where it takes me.
If you want it badly enough, it'll come, just take it one step at a time. In my view, happiness is a journey, not a destination.
Good luck with it all!
Cheers,