Vim,
I'm not angered mate, I just don't believe that any of us on this thread have the right to tell Bens Dad (or anyone in their position) what he can or cannot do, or what he can or cannot say or ask, thats all.
Don't back down on your stance by all means, that's what freedom of speech is all about, but don't give a grieving father, mother or anyone in that position a hard time for asking fair and justified questions, please. Thats all I'm saying here. Thank you.
My best wishes to you also.
TSM
ps. I know who difar69 is, but not froobs, and who the hell was Liz Kenny?