SQP1 until fairly recently all I had smelt was the occasional whiff like I'm sure you had. I'm not saying, like you plainly are, that I thought the fumes were fabricated by a few militants looking to destroy our job, but I was dubious as to how bad the incidents actually were.
As has been said already, the whole thing is subjective and some seem more sensitive than others, however you are obviously fortunate enough to not have experienced a "real" fumes incident.
Not that long ago when I was at about 1000ft on approach operating single pack due to reported fumes, when we had a full exposure for about 10 seconds of intense fumes. After landing and having turned all bleeds/packs off, opened windows etc both me and my fellow crew member were in very poor shape. Our eyes were streaming, skin was burning, throats were sore and heads were pounding.
Mate, THERE IS A PROBLEM
and the sooner people like you back off and wake up to this very real issue the sooner we will hopefully get it resolved.
I'm not a "drama queen" and I'm not trying to "piss on anyone" as you so eloquently put it, I'm just being totally honest about what happened to me.
I don't believe you when you say people shout you down for putting your point across in the crewroom, we work with a decent bunch of guys who, in the most, would be more than happy to discuss your opinions to which you are fully entitled.
I also question that you find you share the same opinion with the majority of people you fly with, you are in a minority by far and what you say doesn't add up.
MD