Chock2Chock,
What this guy told you kind of reminds me of a quote from the movie "Pursuit of Happiness" with Will Smith. He says to his son something like: "Donīt ever let anyone tell you that you canīt do something. When people canīt do something themselves, they will try to tell you that you canīt do it". I think itīs so true!!!
Probably this guy you talk about was not able to get what he really wanted and now heīs bumming other people out.
Maybe he is trying to help and his intentions were not to bum you out, but I would not listen to those comments :-)
So I say, go for it. Donīt listen to people who try to tell you you canīt do something. Yes, it will be tough at times, but if you really want it, you should work to get it!!!!! And since you are not married yet, youīre in a good position to go through the tough part now without affecting your partner.
Best,
Arturo