Either you take control early in the approach as you are the one ultimately in charge for the vessel
- Either you let it go to your limit before you hit the red button, but if you’re low over the ground, you do it because you’ve already decided it was for the go-around
The first option sounds good to me. If the conditions are not suitable for the experience level of the trainee or co-pilot, and/or beyond the company limits (if any) for co-pilot then is there a problem with taking over, or taking the whole sector? On both Boeing and Airbus - NO!
The second option you put forward requires some clarification. Firstly, I would hope "your limit" is within those defined by SOPs. At any time an aircraft unsafe state appears likely or develops you
must take over and correct (remember threat and error management?) . Once again, Airbus or Boeing - just do it. There is no question of robbing anyone of anything, safety is the goal of both pilots, not their egos.
The mention of a pilot "feeling passive" is more a reflection on the pilot than the control system being used. If a co-pilot feels the aircraft is in danger he must communicate this to the Captain. If the communication has no effect then he (or she/he) must
do something! Both a column or side-stick is eminently suitable.