Toadpool, I think you should recognise that military people find it equally frustrating where the only set of 'good' rules are the ones you civil types doggedly quote from CAP493. Talking about mixed civ/mil ops, I am guessing that you may be a Teeside man. The Teeside/Leeming relationship is renowned acorss the RAF for being poor. How many airprox/MORs/AIR(C)s over the last couple of years?
I think we all agree - standardised procedures are the way ahead. The important bit is for both sides to acknowledge that their way of doing business may not necessarily be best.