I'm with you there neilmac. A single friend of mine works for a civvy company and she was moving up from Kent. They gave her time off work, paid her travel and hotels while she came up to look for somewhere to live twice - as she's a bird she couldn't make her mind up first time - and couldn't understand why I found that so amazing.
When I told her our 'deal' - DIY through the RAF, sans big stuff, or DIY for a capped rate, she thought that was awful - I only lost £50, but losing any money when you're told to relocate is just one of those relatively minor things that mount up.
My mound of 'little things' has elevated me to a point of being able to jump the fence. I'm off - papers went in after Xmas.