VSB, its ok ,and yes it did wander a little off topic, but i do feel trying to nut out how to stop it happening again, is a useful expenditure of energy. After all, who wants a body on their conscious, regardless or not if you could have done anything to prevent the poor sod from expiring. There is a reasion why train drivers, for example, get free counceling after an incident in their line of work.
maybe the topic should fork at this point, into two threads, one for the event, and one looking for solutions to impliment?