Sorry to take so long to get back to you. Your post slipped off the bottom of the screen and "out of sight..."
Starfish have a program that was bundled with my new Motorola L7089 that has an IR port. The program is called Truesync Plus and will synchronise various data file formats from various PIMs with various bits of hardware.
It can be used with a serial link if there is no IR link. It even has its own PIM called Truesync Desktop into which you can import lists from Excel, DBase etc.
But it's "flaky" and hard work to get to understand. The support web site has 472 FAQs! So you can see that some perseverance is needed. However, it does work when you get the hang of it and it sure beats the hell out of punching 200-300 names and 'phone numbers directly into the mobile.
http://www.starfish.com