"..... and groveled to the F/O about overcookingthe first approach."
And why would you need to grovel? Being upfront about having got it wrong is NO reason to grovel. Admit your mistake, calmly and professionally and go-around. That way the chap in the other seat LEARNS something. If you grovel about it the FO thinks that admission is something to be avoided. And thats when incidents like these happen.