Had a CFI interrogate me about my x-wind calculations prior to hiring an SEP a couple of years back - at the time I had a CPL/IR but he still wanted to know if I knew my stuff. And that was fair enough in my books - it's their aircraft and their airfield!
If they decreed it too bumpy or windy to fly then I'd certainly not ignore their opinion. Chances are they're more experienced in these matters than me anyway... and there's little point being up there wishing you were back down here now is there?!
The part that would bug me is the lack of communication and if you're aggreived you should tell them.
<FI hat on>But the fact you didn't know that this sort of information is contained in the Pilot Order Book suggests to me that you might still be at the stage where you should respect the opinion of those with more experience than yourself.<FI hat off>
VFE.