So xtc, what have you proved by your series of postings
That you are not a team player - too much 'them and us'
That you are not of a calm temperament - you rise easily and with little provocation, and get quite abusive towards others.
If you feel your attitude is justified, why the need to constantly reassure us that it 'wasn't you' that started it.
If you were really as much of a leader as you claim - you would realise it doesn't matter who started what - it's how you deal with the situation, not who you blame.
Facetious remarks at the expense of others, shows immaturity not clever wit.
Remember, people who are bored are boring.
Now, I don't know you except from what you post here, but that tells me all of the above. It also tells me I could not rely on you, nor would you be good, in an emergency, because that needs a cool head which so far you've signally failed to display.