STH,
Mr Gray would never allow "fun" on the part of us junior officer filth! I'm now at a secret North Yorkshire base with the loveliest Stn Cdr in the world...
Have to agree about the "Morale Vortex", though... it does have just about the best Mess in the Service.
Anyhoo, I have a Stn Cdr who's agreed that the dining-in should be as informal and riotous a night as we can manage, so it should all be good!