Whirlybirds' words are absolutlely spot on! But if I had to add anything, I'd say that you should relax AFTER you have trimmed the bugger (nearly said "rimmed the bugger" - but this isn't a Cabin Cew forum!). Having the aircraft trimmed means that you can relax and not fly the damn thing (you delegate that to the designer) so that you can think about the bigger things in life and flying - like where are going to eat tonight? But seriously, that is the key to being able to relax.
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