Ok Apologies from me, I went off at the handle on the literal meaning and should have read, paused and then replied.
I understand there is a need as Aircraft Captain to be firm but fair to coin a phrase and after all your the person in charge regardless of Rank on or off the aircraft.
With regard to the AAC Junior Officer, we normally crew him with a grumpy NCO like myself. As my previous post is evident I don't mind gobbing off.