silverfox
you seem most unhappy about all sympathetic comments regarding your predicament, so I conclude that you are not after sympathy from this forum.
The many contributors, to a greater or lesser extent, have tried to sympathise and let you know what they think / know.
A good deal of individuals in the UK (apparently not part of Europe!) are not based at their 1st, 2nd, or 3rd choice of base living hundreds of miles away from their homes and families. Some get home as much as those who live in Holland, France, Germany etc (Europe!).
If all you can do in reply is attack those who offer you help then perhaps you should either go on a CRM course or do someting else!
Get a Grip!