Originally Posted by run_and_break
She cannot move to the UK due to other commitments.
R&B,
Not to bust your chops ( but you did ask for advice ), but you two now have no BIGGER commitment...and all other considerations have been replaced by it. I know it's one of those life events where "...you don't know it 'til you live it...", but unfazed nail it.
I don't see how you three could live on regional FO pay so maybe getting her and your impending bundle of joy to Europe for better pay might be worth a serious look.
Hang in there, dad.