MAD GIRL Very sorry to hear of your loss. You are now in a situation you have, probably, never been in before. Only you know how you can approach flying training in these circumstances. However, you do need to take your instructor aside and tell him what's up. Remember now and in the future, it's his aircraft when he's teaching you and he needs to kn ow how all the crew are going to perform (CRM).
As another correspondant mentioned, flying may be what you need to take your mind off your loss. I am lucky in that I have always been able to leave my 'admin' problems on the ground. This doesn't work for everyone; you will find out as your flying progresses. This may bethe time to find out as it is a dual sortie. Keep us all informed
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