Ace,
I'm afraid that that notion is occasionally reciprocated; I've known despatchers who seem to think they could dictate the terms of a departure with respect to engineering issues.
If I may point out- with the benefit of several decades of experience - the perceived attitude is often a mirror of your own. The title of your thread speaks volumes, as does your latest post.
Nobody in our industry should expect to be be called "sir" or "madam" (other than fare paying passengers); you should, however, afford each other respect.