I believe it is you who is out of order. If you take a look at any uk airport arrival chart it states in bold letters "do not proceed beyond ....... without ATC clearance". I have seen this before with pilots flying straight through the hold while on own navigation with the excuse that no-one told them to hold. If you were on a heading then you continue it. If you are on own navigation to wherever-Chase,Bovingdon,Tweed,Rosun-then you take up the hold if no further clearance is given,no questions. The controller here simply told you which type of approach you would get,but did not give you any instructions to proceed beyond Chase.She's right, you're wrong.Sorry.