<< know I am only a VRT, but I have been a freemason since I was 22, a few years ago now! In my time I have met a lot of serving Officers and Airmen/Women, yes there are lady freemasons, at various meetings and social functions.>>
That must make the breast bareing initiation a bit different.
As for secret membership lists, I once had to help the worshipful master sort out his database. I must admit to being distinctly uncomfortable.