I would second all the advice given above. A difficult situation and one that most people who are now skippers, including your rather trying colleague, will have been in before which makes it all the more inexcusable. He does need a CRM refresher but the trouble is that almost by definition those who need it most are those least likely to be influenced by that sort of training. I would say you have done the right thing in contacting a trusted colleague and full marks for not biting back, it would have made you feel better at the time but far better to rise above it and claim the moral high ground in your own mind if not his.
Unfortunately these guys are VERY hard to get rid of, they are normally pretty good technical operators and hand flyers who are on their best behaviour in the sim. and during line checks. Wait for him to retire or leave, file the experience away and use him as an example of what not to be like when you are in the left seat yourself.