Sorry but I believe your CFI has only the agenda of looking after himself and his aeroplanes. Crosswind landings are easy, safe and fun if you are shown a good method and get to practice. It makes for the development of good pilots. Any 'competent' CFI knows this and will pursue it if he has pride in the standard of pilots he is producing. I wouldn't be surprised if he couldn't actually cope with a strong crosswind himself.
The crosswind limit is only a manufactures demonstrated guide. It just meand that at that speed no unusual skill or limiting control inputs were required.
Go to another school.
JAA/FAA/TC CRI/IRI/land and sea
