Thanks Flying Lawyer,
I hadn't meant my comments to be silly or disrespectful, quite the opposite. I posted this on the Private Flying list because I thought it wasn't a pro' pilot question. I have spent many years being a fan of aviation, but not from the inside, so far. It's hard to know whether or not a burning issue to me is just being repeated on here. I agonised for ages before sending it, ah well.
I spent weeks lurking and reading this site before working up the courage to join recently, including myself in as it were, the last thing I want is for members to think that I was being silly. I did read through the FAQ's but didn't find the thread you pointed me to, sorry.
Thank you for your comments, and your advice, I will take it to heart and strive to be more clear, and less nervy about seeking the said advice in future.
Copterfan.