I remember being taught that at about 40' I should commence the flare ... but what does 40' look like? I was told double-decker bus height (I think) but that still didn't really help. In the end it was trial - and - error! One day, it just works.... then went through phases (including post-PPL) when it didn't always work, and had renewed trouble when using very wide (MIL) runway over at Benson initially. All seems OK these days as long as I stay current.
I guess the challenge for instructors is that everyone learns differntly?
Andy