Aww gawd, not another Civil vs Military thread! And just when I thought we had all got bored of it and were about to try and be nice to each other and get on with keeping aircraft from bumping into one another!
Workisfun, you sound like a relatively new military controller.
You should just concentrate on doing your job EXACTLY the way the way the good folk up at CATCS taught you. If the person on the other end of the landline, whoever they may be, is doing or saying it differently, persevere with it, say your stuff and hand over the aircraft, no matter how long it takes or frustrating it is. At the subsequent board of enquiry/court martial you will be water tight if you do it this way.
Don't get into the habit of using gash phraseology just becauase all us old duffers around you or on the other end of a landline do. It will keep the LEO happy if you are standard!