Joyce Tick, you must do one hell of an LST that also qualifies you to decide whether a guy is clinically dead whilst dealing with an EFATO! Either you are inexperienced yourself or a bit of an a**e.
I can fully understand why someone would put out a mayday when faced with such a situation, especially if inexperienced. What's been lost if a mayday has been declared when a pan would have sufficed?
I'm sure you'd be the first to slag someone off if a mayday possibly should have been called and wasn't
There's no black & white in this game, we're all excellent armchair critics but on the day even you don't know how you'd react when faced with every possible situation - no QRH covers the lot.
MD